Psychosexual Therapy

Psychosexual therapy is a legitimate form of traditional psychotherapy (talk therapy) with a focus on sexual feelings, attitudes, behaviours and education. Sex therapy with a mental health professional never includes any sexual contact.

Sex matters. When sex isn’t good, other aspects of your relationship may suffer.

If you think there’s more that sex and your relationship can offer you, you’re probably right. If sex or relationship issues are holding you back, I invite you to make an appointment. I work with men, women and couples.

In our initial session, we talk about sexual and developmental history as a backdrop to interpret such things as current sexual function and expectations. When things go wrong in the sexual or emotional life of a couple, it’s best to address them right away. The right therapist can sometimes make a big difference. Sex Therapy is unlike any other type of therapy. It challenges people in couples to be far more honest about their moment-to-moment experiences. It tends to deliver more immediate results. And it’s often helpful even for couples who’ve spent months or years in less-than-productive couples therapy where sex problems have been avoided or not confronted directly.

‘There is no discovery without risk and what you risk reveals what you value’ Jeanette Winterson.

I work with individuals and couples, guiding them as they learn to value their own pleasure and overcome obstacles to satisfying sexual expression resulting in much better sex lives and fulfilling relationships with themselves and others. I see singles and couples of all different ages, sexual orientation, ethnicity and religions and I am passionate about working with people beyond judgment from a place of acceptance and connection to create remarkable and lasting change.

When people first come to an appointment looking for help, we first work towards just getting comfortable talking about whatever issue is bringing you here. Sex itself is a taboo topic and most people carry a heavy load of shame around their sexuality- rather than preferably being more aware and accepting of their sexuality and sexualness.

I will collaborate with you to explore your thoughts, feelings, and life patterns, to help you gain insight and discover new perspectives. The thought of discussing your sex life (or lack thereof) with someone you just met may make you a little uneasy, but most people initially feel that way and overcome it during the work.

Sex and sexuality issues we can address;

  • Getting and maintaining erections and learning ejaculation control and timing
  • Enhancing sexual arousal and desire
  • Improving women’s ability to achieve orgasm
  • Improving men’s ability to reach orgasm with partners
  • Overcoming painful intercourse
  • Managing performance anxiety
  • Dealing with sexual compulsion (‘sex addiction’)
  • sexual avoidance and diminished desire
  • Dealing with age-related sexual issues
  • Enhancing self-esteem and sexual confidence
  • Overcoming anxiety, fear and depression
  • Accepting sexual orientation or gender identity
  • Gender-related & sexual identity issues
  • Navigating alternative sexual expression & behaviours
  • Healing from sexual abuse, exploitation & trauma
  • Dealing with sexual concerns related to infertility
  • Infidelity or affairs
  • Developing social or sexual skills
  • Dating: how to find a good match, how to connect to the person you like and how to best express yourself

‘Good sex’ begins when your clothes are still on Masters and Johnson.

If it is required, or someone wants it then I can use EMDR therapy to heal sexual trauma or blocks that get in the way of healthy sexual functioning or sexual self-esteem.

Trauma healing restores our aliveness and wholeness. For many traumatized individuals, this has been taken away. Any type of boundary rupture whether physical or emotional can leave us with residual trauma and activation stored up in our bodies. EMDR is a body-based trauma healing technique that helps you integrate experiences, release any negative energy from your body and heal so you can feel able to enjoy a healthy sexual relationship.

‘The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it’ Truman Capote.

As an EMDR practitioner, my way of working is gentle and powerful. Working with somatic issues allows you to access your body’s inner knowing and wisdom to heal both mind and body. When energy and trauma is locked into our body any trigger can set in motion an endless continual loop created at the time the trauma happened and we work to release these body reactions and heal you.